“The first one I was just hanging out at my boyfriend’s house, and we had been dating for about two months at the time. “There were two situations where I almost had sex,” Anna, a student’s name who has been changed for anonymity, said. For Anna, her chance to seal the deal had shown itself multiple times. But deciding if it’s the right time and place is a commitment that is undoable. No matter the situation, the possibility of having sex can be scary as well as exhilarating. A heat of the moment decision at a party. In most every teens high school experience, there comes the time that opportunity knocks to finally “get lucky.” A girl and her boyfriend finally home alone. On the topic of sex, I would say I’m not ready for that.” “Being a freshman looking at upperclassmen, you see them as mature adults. But according to Penn, not every single freshman is striving to lose their virginity so quickly. Being exposed to an older and more mature atmosphere can in turn force a teenager to believe he or she needs to be more mature, and perform more mature acts to fit in. “Last year in health they talked about the STD’s and unplanned pregnancies that could result from having sex, and to not do it when you’re so young because the odds of those things happening are very high,” Penn said, “My parents haven’t really talked about it at all, they assume I’ll get educated from school.”Ĭoming into high school can open you up to many new experiences, and often times sex can be one of them. The chance of getting a girl pregnant or catching an STD isn’t worth it when you aren’t even trying to have sex. From insistent parents to health classes that condemn the very act, sex can seem like a foreign language. “I don’t think a lot of freshmen really think about it.”Īs a freshman, the thought of having sex so early can be terrifying. “None of my friends have had sex,” Penn said. For freshman Christopher Penn, sex is being too afraid to step up to the plate. Sex can seem to be a very scary concept for most young teens.The thought of risking your health, heart and reputation isn’t something a high schooler takes lightly. “I have stuck with this pledge my whole life and I’m obviously not ashamed of it,” Kushinikov said, “Why wouldn’t you want to save something so incredibly special for the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? Personally, I want to save this special moment for my wife and I want to know I’m with her because I love her, not her sexuality.” The concern of being aware of your partner’s past suddenly becomes primary. Unwanted pregnancies and STDs are a big concern when it comes to having premarital sex.
Other than waiting for “the one,” there are also a lot of other casualties that come along with having sex too early, or before the person is ready. If you have sex before marriage, with someone other than your spouse, then you’ll most likely compare the two.” “With sex comes a very intimate and emotional bond, and if you break up with that person after you’ve had sex with them, that could lead to a major heartbreaking breakup. Having sex not only makes or breaks a relationship, but it also shows that there is a special bond between the two participants. From his point of view, waiting to have sex until marriage should be an obvious decision to everyone.
Growing up in a Christian household, Kuvshinikov’s parents raised him to abstain from sex and have greatly influenced him in keeping his pledge to wait to have sex until marriage. It’s a great way to test the relationship and practice self-control.” When you save sex for marriage, it sort of proves that you are with that person because you love them for them, not because they’re hot or something. It’s when you’re in your most vulnerable state, and this openness with somebody should really be the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s a special bond between a husband and a wife. “Sex is a really special bond that you can’t just throw away on some chick it’s an emotional bond as well,” Kuvshinikov said, “Sex is a really important thing in a marriage. For some people, sex is more than a physical act rather, it is an act of love reserved for “forever.” Sophomore Nikolai Kuvshinikov believes that waiting to have sex until marriage is an important piece of his moral compass. Sometimes it’s thinking of it as simply as America’s past-time: baseball.Įven though sex is oftentimes considered one of the most primal acts in the animal kingdom, the desire to participate in it is something left to the human mind. From never having had sex to your twentieth time, sex can be perceived and thought of in many more ways than one. In the end, one thing always leads to another. No matter the reference or outcome, it all starts in the same place.
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